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The myth of perfectionism
Perfectionism is not the healthy pursuit of excellence. There are big differences between perfectionists and healthy achievers. Perfectionists believe that mistakes must never be made and that the highest standards of performance must always be achieved.
Those who strive for excellence in a healthy way take genuine pleasure in trying to meet high standards and learn and grow from every mistake. Perfectionists on the other hand are full of self-doubts and fears of disapproval, ridicule and rejection. The healthy striver has drive, while the perfectionist is driven.
Those who strive for excellence in a healthy way take genuine pleasure in trying to meet high standards and learn and grow from every mistake. Perfectionists on the other hand are full of self-doubts and fears of disapproval, ridicule and rejection. The healthy striver has drive, while the perfectionist is driven.
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The "South Indian Monkey Trap" was developed by villagers to catch the ever-present and numerous small monkeys in that part of the world. It involves a hollowed-out coconut chained to a stake. The coconut has some rice inside which can be seen through a small hole. The hole is just big enough so that the monkey can put his hand in, but too small for his fist to come out after he has grabbed the rice.
Tempted by the rice, the monkey reaches in and is suddenly trapped. He is not able to see that it is his own fist that traps him, his own desire for the rice. He rigidly holds on to the rice, because he values it. He cannot let go and by doing so retain his freedom. So the trap works and the villagers capture him.
Perfectionists need to rethink their own values and decide whether they are going to continue to be trapped by these values or free themselves.
Tempted by the rice, the monkey reaches in and is suddenly trapped. He is not able to see that it is his own fist that traps him, his own desire for the rice. He rigidly holds on to the rice, because he values it. He cannot let go and by doing so retain his freedom. So the trap works and the villagers capture him.
Perfectionists need to rethink their own values and decide whether they are going to continue to be trapped by these values or free themselves.
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War is absolutely necessary for the development of new technologies we cannot afford living without. And still more important, to grant peace we must go through some inevitable wars.
During war times fighting for a noble cause our lives get real meaning and we have that feeling of belonging to something bigger.
No matter the casualties, the broken hearts, the material losses and the damages to nature, war is a valid tool to make prevail what we think is the right point of view.
During war times fighting for a noble cause our lives get real meaning and we have that feeling of belonging to something bigger.
No matter the casualties, the broken hearts, the material losses and the damages to nature, war is a valid tool to make prevail what we think is the right point of view.
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To try to be perfect means that you have an ideal of perfection, something you want to copy, a model you want to ape. Do you want to be a plastic imitation of something or someone?